Despite having an About page, I often wondered that was never enough to truly learn who we both are, as a couple. Many would either agree or disagree, nonetheless, this is our love story 🙂
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Funny. Angry. Sad. Happy.
These are some of many examples of emotions involving decisions to elope. Well, in the matter of heart, there wasn’t a better way to solve this issue.
Difference in religion was a strong reason to deny our courtship.
I am born a Sikh and Tarun, a Hindu.
Despite some miniscule differences, we struggled to be with each other. Forever. We loved our parents and families so much. But we love each other ever more so and cannot bear the fact of not spending our lives together. Sounds like a typical on screen love story huh? Where the main characters defies faith, family traditions and the laws of society in the name of love.
Funny fact till date is the circumstance of how we met. We begin communicating via online chat room. I mean, it all begin from there. Had he not chatted with me, met and fell in love, we wouldn’t be where we are today. Kismet is beautiful. Anyways…
Kismet – Fate or Destiny in Turkish and Urdu – Source.
It all started 10 years and 1 month ago. That is when we met for the very first time. After chatting online for more than 2 months, we agreed to meet. Face to face. He came alone but I brought with me, my two guardians – believe it or not, my mom and a very pregnant sister! It was not a date per say, but nonetheless, I knew he felt awkward. At least, I was. At that point, I just need to be safe enough to know I am not dealing with a complete nut case. Sorry honey 😀
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Well, we were friends. At first. We spent a lot of time getting to know more about each other over coffees, dinners, hours of phone calls etc. I mean, how would I know that it would evolve into something magical? Slowly but surely we begin to fall for each other. At the same time, the circumstance of our faiths and ways of life, were looming on us as we begin planning our lives together.
“I believe in recognizing every human being as a human being–neither white, black, brown, or red; and when you are dealing with humanity as a family there’s no question of integration or intermarriage. It’s just one human being marrying another human being or one human being living around and with another human being.” — Malcolm X
The term “elope” is used quite loosely here. Our parent’s were mostly NOT against our union per say. But my father was not agreeing at first. I have a very strict dad (duh!). We had numerous discussions that would end up in bitter arguments. It was not cool. But when in love, we often forget how much the people who loves us the most, would fight to keep us safe. I mean, Daddy meant no harm. He was just against the whole idea of me “falling in love“. And that, to an Indian.
“Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live“ – Author Unknown.
It’s a long story and to cut it short, we figured civil court marriage was the best option. With our circumstance at that time, it was least controversial (smack in the head!).
To be continued…
Do you believe in Internet love? Or for that matter, Kismet? What are your views on inter-faith marriages?
