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A love story – yeah, we did elope!

by Kiran on August 1, 2011 · 41 comments

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Despite having an About page, I often wondered that was never enough to truly learn who we both are, as a couple. Many would either agree or disagree, nonetheless, this is our love story πŸ™‚

Funny. Angry. Sad. Happy.

These are some of many examples of emotions involving decisions to elope. Well, in the matter of heart, there wasn’t a better way to solve this issue.

Difference in religion was a strong reason to deny our courtship.

I am born a Sikh and Tarun, a Hindu.

Despite some miniscule differences, we struggled to be with each other. Forever. We loved our parents and families so much. But we love each other ever more so and cannot bear the fact of not spending our lives together. Sounds like a typical on screen love story huh? Where the main characters defies faith, family traditions and the laws of society in the name of love.

Funny fact till date is the circumstance of how we met. We begin communicating via online chat room. I mean, it all begin from there. Had he not chatted with me, met and fell in love, we wouldn’t be where we are today. Kismet is beautiful. Anyways…

Kismet – Fate or Destiny in Turkish and UrduSource.

It all started 10 years and 1 month ago. That is when we met for the very first time. After chatting online for more than 2 months, we agreed to meet. Face to face. He came alone but I brought with me, my two guardians – believe it or not, my mom and a very pregnant sister! It was not a date per say, but nonetheless, I knew he felt awkward. At least, I was. At that point, I just need to be safe enough to know I am not dealing with a complete nut case. Sorry honey πŸ˜€

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Well, we were friends. At first. We spent a lot of time getting to know more about each other over coffees, dinners, hours of phone calls etc. I mean, how would I know that it would evolve into something magical? Slowly but surely we begin to fall for each other. At the same time, the circumstance of our faiths and ways of life, were looming on us as we begin planning our lives together.

I believe in recognizing every human being as a human being–neither white, black, brown, or red; and when you are dealing with humanity as a family there’s no question of integration or intermarriage. It’s just one human being marrying another human being or one human being living around and with another human being.” β€” Malcolm X

The term “elope” is used quite loosely here. Our parent’s were mostly NOT against our union per say. But my father was not agreeing at first. I have a very strict dad (duh!). We had numerous discussions that would end up in bitter arguments. It was not cool. But when in love, we often forget how much the people who loves us the most, would fight to keep us safe. I mean, Daddy meant no harm. He was just against the whole idea of me “falling in love“. And that, to an Indian.

Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live – Author Unknown.

It’s a long story and to cut it short, we figured civil court marriage was the best option. With our circumstance at that time, it was least controversial (smack in the head!).

To be continued…

Do you believe in Internet love? Or for that matter, Kismet? What are your views on inter-faith marriages?

{ 39 comments }

1 Brittany August 1, 2011 at 1:59 PM

Such a beautiful story, Kiran. Of course I’m on the edge of my seat wanting more. LOL! Alex and I met online too. πŸ˜‰

2 Kiran August 10, 2011 at 12:51 PM

Brittany,
You are too sweet my dear πŸ™‚ The saga would continue soon. In fact, a part 2 continuance would be posted this Friday. Get em’ while it’s hot πŸ˜‰ Speaking of internet love, I think it’s a trend these days. I love how you & Alex compliment each other!

3 carolinaheartstrings August 1, 2011 at 3:40 PM

What a great story. Loved it and cannot wait for the to be continued. I think if you love each other you can make anything work!

4 Kiran August 10, 2011 at 1:07 PM

CHS,
Thank you dear. Part 2 would be published on Friday! Stay tuned πŸ™‚

5 Holli August 1, 2011 at 4:09 PM

I think that two people who are in love and want to be together should be together. No matter what πŸ™‚

6 Kiran August 10, 2011 at 1:11 PM

Holli,
Thank you honey. But where we come from (Asian), the traditions and upbringing is so different from the West. Part 2 post would explain these in more details πŸ™‚

7 Kankana August 1, 2011 at 7:21 PM

One of my fren went through a similar situation. In her case, both were hindu but, she is bengali and he is a punjabi!! Wonder if these difference will ever go away from India. Thankfully we didn’t had to elope but had to wait for months to convince the parents (both sides) πŸ™‚

8 Kiran August 10, 2011 at 1:29 PM

Kankana,
I don’t think India’s (sediyo purana – old) traditions would go away very soon. Our parent’s had some set of expectations from us. And it was not their fault to have reacted that way. Obviously it would be hard to expect a change in tradition from them as well. But tides are changing. Hopefully for the best πŸ™‚

9 Destination Infinity August 2, 2011 at 10:27 AM

I don’t know whether inter-caste/religion marriages are good or not, but I know one thing for sure – Arranged Marriages are Hopeless. You should thank your stars for not having gone through that process.

Destination Infinity

10 Kiran August 10, 2011 at 1:32 PM

DI,
I think you are right, and your statement concurs for current generation. I cannot fathom the idea of “arranged marriages” in 21st century. One should be able to decide the future him or herself. As for hopelessness of arranged marriage? I don’t think it’s fair to say as such. I have a lot of good examples in that field too πŸ˜€

11 Dev August 4, 2011 at 9:31 AM

Inspirational. Waiting to hear more…

12 Kiran August 10, 2011 at 1:35 PM

Dev,
Thanks a lot buddy. Inspiration or otherwise, it’s just the story of our life πŸ™‚ Part 2 would be posted this Friday!

13 Ameena August 4, 2011 at 5:39 PM

I think that Internet love is really the best form of love out there. If I hadn’t met my husband right out of college when the Internet was just getting popular, I know that I would have been a huge fan of Shaadi.com! Brilliant idea, I tell you!

Cute store. So glad you found each other!

14 Kiran August 10, 2011 at 1:43 PM

Ameena,
There is nothing such as Shaadi.com in Malaysia. Whenever I hear stories about how people are matched using these tools in India, it’s a horror story for me! Shocker!

15 Deepika Srivastava August 5, 2011 at 3:57 AM

Beautiful Story….I never knew how you both met……Eagerly waiting for the rest of the story…Lots of love..

16 Kiran August 10, 2011 at 4:54 PM

Deepika,
Thank you honey. It’s just a story. Not a good example to follow πŸ˜€

17 Emily August 6, 2011 at 2:29 PM

Some Internet dating works out, some doesn’t. People object to meeting and falling in love online, because you don’t really know the person, and whether they are being deceptive.

But when it comes down to it, the same could be said for face-to-face dating.

Glad it worked out for you. πŸ™‚

18 Kiran August 10, 2011 at 5:00 PM

Emily,
Welcome to Chatterbox and thanks for your comments! Not all methods are perfect and works for everyone. So I should say, “proceed with caution” and prepare for the worst πŸ™‚

19 dinu August 9, 2011 at 12:20 PM

awesome πŸ™‚ looks like we have somewhat similar history when it comes to love and marriage:D

πŸ™‚

btw, I replied to your comment on my blog…

20 Kiran August 10, 2011 at 5:03 PM

Dinu,
You must tell me about your dating story! Similar or otherwise πŸ˜€

21 Vandya August 10, 2011 at 5:29 AM

Hi Kiran, first time here and loving your space. I don’t know much about internet dating but i do believe in kismet. But you got a beautiful love story and it doesn’t matter whether one is Sikh or Hindu. Ultimately what matters is one’s happiness.

22 Kiran August 10, 2011 at 5:04 PM

Vandya,
Hello!! Welcome to Chatterbox and thanks for your comment. I love your support and perspective about kismet. I do share the same sentiments about internet dating. Though during our courtship, we didn’t see it as “internet dating”.

23 angela August 12, 2011 at 9:14 AM

I met my husband online, too. πŸ˜‰

24 Kiran August 12, 2011 at 11:51 AM

Angela,
Wow! I never knew I personally know many people, sharing the same boat like us! That’s cool πŸ™‚

25 sm August 12, 2011 at 8:58 PM

beautiful story

26 Kiran August 26, 2011 at 12:30 PM

SM,
Welcome to Chatterbox and thanks for commenting πŸ™‚

27 Mia Summer Rose August 20, 2011 at 10:19 AM

Awwww, sooooo cuteeee!
Heart love stories and this one is super cute:-))
Im cool about meeting the guy of my dreamz any way , as long as he is the one , we connect and the the relationship rocks πŸ™‚
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28 Kiran August 26, 2011 at 1:47 PM

Mia,
Thank you so much for those lovely words and encouragements. I want to hug you now, my friend πŸ™‚

29 Shubham August 27, 2011 at 12:53 AM

wow.. a love story that’s got technical elements too πŸ™‚
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30 Kiran September 2, 2011 at 10:03 AM

Shubham,
Thanks yaar. What technical elements are you referring too? πŸ˜€

31 Gayatri August 30, 2011 at 2:47 PM

I totally believe in kismet. It’s how my husband and I met! Although it was an arranged setting, a lot of things fell into place for our 1st meeting to happen. And my best friend is a Hindu girl married to a Sikh boy. They’re the most beautiful couple I know πŸ™‚ …. So more power to every inter-faith couple!

32 Kiran September 2, 2011 at 10:37 AM

Gayatri,
Thanks for sharing your love stories and examples. I agree to “more power for every inter-faith couples” or otherwise πŸ™‚

33 Sonakshi September 9, 2011 at 3:15 AM

Nice story.. me and hubby had to convince our parents for almost 2 years.. πŸ™‚ but now both the sides are more than happy !!

34 Kiran September 13, 2011 at 2:36 PM

Sonakshi,
Thank you for sharing your story – glad it worked out both ends πŸ™‚

35 IndumathySukanya September 13, 2011 at 2:57 PM

Hey kiran!
My boyfriend n I met online…we were friends for a whole year and we got into a relationship on the day of our anniversary :)…oh n yeah, we belong to different castes n hell will break loose if our parents ever come to know!
Very similar, huh? πŸ˜€
I can totally relate to your story! And I would want to handle the situation thats gonna arise at home without resorting to eloping!
I’m sure that wasnt an easy decision for you either!

Btw, I’m new in here…you have a very attractive blog πŸ™‚

36 Kiran September 19, 2011 at 1:35 PM

Indumathy,
Welcome to Chatterbox and thanks for the compliments and sharing your love story with us. Resorting to eloping wasn’t our best decision. My advise is to have a sit down with the family’s and lay out the details on your relationship. I am sure they would retaliate, after all, they are our parents and would want us to be happy and not in harms way. Best of luck in your endeavors and keep us posted πŸ™‚

37 naidushekar February 16, 2012 at 2:53 AM

Hi there,
Good to hear all the beautiful stories, Will you guys help us..

38 Kiran February 16, 2012 at 5:13 PM

Welcome to Chatterbox and thanks for commenting — what can we help you?!

39 Reema March 5, 2012 at 10:25 AM

Oh I do believe in internet love..D and I met on orkut!! and now are happily married!
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