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The proposal

by Kiran on February 16, 2012 · 17 comments

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Happy [belated] Valentine’s Day <3 I hope the gifts for him and her had you inspired to get out and be creative with your gifts this year.

If you are curious, we bought each other the monogrammed mugs from Anthropologie — but I have my eyes on the jewelry frame. Gotta make it soon.

I’ve been reading so many marriage proposal stories and recaps recently and it makes me think about our story. For long time readers, you might have read about our love story. We aired our dirty laundry with stories on eloping, discussion on love & arranged marriage, post marriage realizations etc.

But I haven’t told you about how he proposed to me for marriage.

Geez, what took me so long?

Anyways, so the whole idea of eloping sounds fun, scary & dangerous, no? There’s often a lot of planning involved including anticipations from the ladies — expecting when she would get the proposal and how he would eventually plan and execute the whole proposal.

Well, I was not one of them. Sounds boring, yes?

Of course, I’ve dream about my prince charming, how we would meet and fall in love — the whole jazz. But I’ve never actually thought about how, when and where he would propose.

In fact, I think I might have “suggested” marriage at one point. He agreed and we didn’t discuss about it, until much later.

The advantage of eloping definitely took the edge and pressure of him to officially “propose“. After all, it was OUR idea to elope. We took the decision to get married, together. I guess, you could say we proposed to each other 😀

I feel there’s too much of cliche and demand in the society for similarities in certain ritual. Proposal is one of many. Taking a vow is something so personal and sacred, and for us to be able to take a decision on this subject “together”, was just as important as breathing.

From there on, we are leading our lives basically making decisions together. It’s not something that we spat and shook hands too — but its what we love doing for each other.

Don’t get me wrong — I am not against marriage proposals, engagements, etc. I did help my brother in law pick out a ring for my sister and help him plan the shebang of a marriage proposal. What I am trying to say is I am glad Tarun did not officially propose to marriage like the society expects from him. WE did it our way, where we comfortably discussed our logistics about marriage planning. After all circumstance, at that time, were the deciding factor of why we chose this unorthodox method of marriage proposal.

Conclusion: there weren’t any official marriage proposal ( so sorry, i don’t have any sappy proposal stories to share ), no fancy engagement/marriage ring (I do wear the ring he bought me when we first proclaimed our love), zero professional marriage portraits, no bachelorette/bachelor party galore, no official wedding and definitely NO one bit of regret 🙂

I agree this is not for every one, so I am open to hear your thoughts about eloping, marriage and decision making with your significant other. Share your story with us 🙂

I am aware this is a short beginning for an important subject. Would love to continue this discussion as it progress, in another blog post. So for now…tell me,

Who proposed & how are you making decisions as a couple, etc? Any proposal stories you want to disclose? 😀

Now for something fun, did you catch Google’s Doodle for Valentines’ Day this year? It melts my heart!!



1 Bhling February 16, 2012 at 7:08 PM

Have you seen the movie the Proposal?You should watch it…It’s awesome!
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2 Bikram February 17, 2012 at 5:36 AM

I beleive as long as two people are happy. Thats what matters the most the rest is all secondary.
You are together and happy .. what more can anyone want 🙂

the google doodle is funny

3 Jen at The Three Little Piglets February 17, 2012 at 3:20 PM

That Google thing was SO cute! I didn’t see it! My husband and I eloped too, 30 minutes after we said, hey maybe we should get married. Here we are almost 16 years later!
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4 Hotly Spiced February 18, 2012 at 4:42 AM

I love the cartoon at the beginning. And I love your story – I think every couple needs to find the right way to celebrate their romance. Well done to you for doing it your way!
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5 Vinay February 18, 2012 at 9:45 PM

I wish the article had like buttons like the one in FB.. Nice post 🙂

6 Harsha February 19, 2012 at 6:02 AM

Aww! That was so lovely! 😀 Though there was no typical marriage proposal, yours was a very adorable story, something like starting it out ‘together’ 🙂
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7 Simply Life February 19, 2012 at 7:59 PM

I actually LOVE this and love that you two did exactly what fits you and your relationship! Shows you really have a strong love! 🙂
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8 Cynosure February 20, 2012 at 2:52 AM

OK…I seriously speaking…although the post was not meant for everyone…but it was my kind… 😉
I don’t have any stories yet…but someone asked me once…and I thought to have a similar story for myself… lol… 😛
wish you both a great life ahead… 🙂
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9 Jen February 20, 2012 at 5:04 AM

Wow! I think as far as you love what you do nothing really matters!!:) But I loce all the drama one has for a wedding. I’m not married yet byt would love the all the hungama revolving it!! 🙂

Your new follower!! 🙂
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10 Suchi February 20, 2012 at 7:31 AM

Hey Kiran,

You eloped? That is so super cool! After going through a full blown seven day traditional Indian marriage, I wish I had the guts to elope. My husband did put forward the idea.

I proposed to my husband over the phone and he was so stunned he went quiet for a few seconds. Those few seconds seemed like an eternity and an refusal seemed looming large….all in my mind…we never gave each other any engagement ring, it never seemed important…

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11 Chopinand @ ChopinandMysaucepan February 20, 2012 at 8:33 AM

Dear Kiran,

That cartoon is quite funny. I think it’s great that you did what you thought suited you both rather than conform to some societal or cultural norm.

We got married on a boat over Sydney harbour and had only 150 guests since that is the maximum number for the cruise as opposed to 1,000 if we had our wedding in Malaysia or Singapore.

12 Divya Yadava February 20, 2012 at 7:04 PM

You eloped?! Wow…I had no idea! Now, that’s a cool story.

I too don’t have any proposal stories – it was just a mutual decision to get married. Most people expected a story from me when I started planning a wedding! I had to disappoint them!

I’ve always wondered why is it always the guy who has to ask? I prefer something like this to be a joint decision :P.
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13 Rahul Aggarwal February 21, 2012 at 11:21 AM

i agree with Bikram, as long as two souls are together and happy, rest all becomes secondary!!!

you can check out my proposal story at:


14 Parita @ myinnershakti February 21, 2012 at 11:50 AM

Aww that is really sweet, Kiran! I think marriage, proposals, weddings, engagements, etc. are such personal matters and should really reflect the couple and their wants. I love that your story is so unique and beautiful!
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15 Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella February 22, 2012 at 6:09 AM

Just like there are no two marriage proposals alike I’m sure there are lots of people who didn’t get the traditional proposal-mine was a little unusual too! 😛
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16 Marita Abraham March 2, 2012 at 12:02 PM

This is my first time on your blog, so I didn’t have any idea what to expect. I actually think the kind of love that isn’t decorated by fancy shenanigans is often the truest kind.
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17 Reema March 5, 2012 at 9:36 AM

All the hollywood movies I see..they make such a big deal about how did he propose instead of making the marriage work!!
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